Thursday, June 13, 2013

6/14/13—Reaching a Resolution

Today's Draw: Pay attention to Your Dreams, Look Inward and Transform and/or Adapt from Tierney's FABULOUS Homemade Oracle in the Resolution position from Tierney's FABULOUS Deck of 1000 Spreads. Have a situation that needs resolving? What have you tried so far? Are you waiting for someone or something other than yourself to resolve it?

I'm not sure if I could have come up with three more appropriate suggestions on my own for how to resolve issues than the three I chose from my oracle today. Each has its own nuance and/or hidden wisdom to share. So if there's a situation you're hoping to resolve, whether it requires a decision, an action or a new idea, try at least one of the following three. 

Pay Attention to Your Dreams. And not just your nighttime dreams, but your daydreams, too. Day or night, there's nothing silly about dreams, nothing to dismiss. If you write your dreams down, then substitute symbolic meanings for the symbols in your dreams, it often makes a very cohesive and revealing statement about what's going on in your subconscious. You can find dream dictionaries online, in books or even in apps. I went looking for my favorite, but it doesn't seem to be in print anymore. You'd be surprised at how a silly dream about being chased by gophers can reveal insights into your current issues. As for daydreams, they're not just things you wish would happen, but never do. They're doable. And they also often reveal the direction the soul is trying to point you into. So don't poo poo them anymore, They could be the resolution you're looking for. 

Look Inward. Personally I believe that we have all the answers we'll ever need inside us. So a few moments of silence and asking within can often provide a viable resolution. Sometimes the answer doesn't come right away, but spend the time anyway. Then just don't think about it for a while. You may find the answer pops into your head when it's the last thing on your mind. I know I get a LOT of good stuff when I'm in the shower. Or when I'm driving somewhere. Ideas will just come to me spontaneously. That little bit of taking me out of my normal thing sparks ideas. But there's also a deeper thing here. Our actions, whether it be a single action or a compilation of actions over the years, generally get us into the situation we're in. We may not want to see it that way, but it's how it is. So ask yourself why you brought yourself to this place/situation. What is this situation trying to tell you about yourself and what needs to change? Even if, say, you've got a mean husband and are trying to figure out how to leave him...what is it inside you that accepted that at one time and married this man in the first place. Often the way to resolve the problem is in fixing that part of you. The husband is only there to help you shine a light on it. 

Transform/Adapt. This is a really good one. Personally I can say I'm guilty of "either this situation changes or I'm out of here" thinking. Someone once approached me about an issue they were having in their relationship. They wanted to know whether they should leave. So I threw down some cards and the cards didn't say "leave" or "stay". Instead, they said "you will make a decision that leads to greater stability and happiness." So my advice to them was to make a decision. Either you leave and be done with it. Or you stay and change the way you see it. Either path is the road to greater happiness. What I'm getting at is that the answer is not always cut and dried. And there's not just one way to happiness. We often forget that, whether our partner changes or not, we can create change in the relationship simply by changing the way we respond to it or the way we see it. We get all caught up in wanting to be right and wanting the other person to change that we forget that the only variable we have control over is ourselves. So either we find a mindset that allows us to stay. Or we leave. Those are the only two paths to happiness you have control over. But keeping things the way they are will only keep things the way they are. 

I can't say for certain, but I think one of those three things, if not all three combined, can help you resolve any situation. They're certainly a lot better than avoidance and hiding. :) Of course they do require you to take responsibility for the situation and do something about it. But if you keep waiting for it to resolve itself, you could be waiting a long time. 

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